Humanity is filled with people who are introverts, extraverts, and variations of both. Regardless of personality type, most people would like to be a good neighbor and have good neighbors. I refer to it as an art because it is something you never stop practicing. People and situations are so dynamic- they change all the time. But, there are some basic things we can keep in mind about being neighborly.
Wave and say hello!
Most people are cautious about making themselves vulnerable to others (Honestly, it’s because people are not always safe.) But simply letting someone know you see them can start to tear down the walls of awkwardness that may exist anytime we encounter someone new. I know it sounds wild, but there are a lot of people who have never met their neighbors. So say hello or wave with a smile on your face.
Care
Your neighbors are not your responsibility, but wouldn’t the world be a better place if we simple made an effort to care for the familites that live adjacent to our home? Now don’t shut down on me now: caring doesn’t mean you prioritize your neighbors above your own family. Rather, if you attempt to earnestly care for your neighbors in your mind and heart, you will eventually find organic ways to connect. Who knows? You might find a close friend right next door.
Take care of your greatest investment
Generally, your neighbor will appreciate that you take care of your yard and home. The truth is, your home is worth more if you do and it helps to maintain values of homes in your neighborhood. It’s a win-win for you and your neighbor.
Break the ice
Come on- be bold. We all know that neighbor who seems cold and possibly uncaring. It may be that they have no intention of being neighborly; on the other hand, they may wonder why no one cares enough to put the effort in. Just one step of faith to this end can cause a chain reaction. I feel like this could start a spectacular movement.
A few ice breakers:
- Drop off a plant, cookies, cupcakes or something fun.
- Door dash something with a note from you.
- Mow the lawn or shovel the driveway for a neighbor.
- Mail a Starbucks giftcard or invite them out for coffee.
- Help neighbors move.
- Sit on the porch over tea.
- Have a yard party.
This is a passion of mine. It’s not something I have ever written about, just something I have done. I bring this same passion to the clients I serve.
-Steve
